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Rare Common Sense

Yesterday, while taking a glass of wine in one my favoured watering holes, I entered into a conversation with a stranger and fellow Englishman. He was a bright, elderly man, some few years older then myself, who was taking a cruise down the Rhine and stopped off in Bonn to see the cathederal.

During our pleasant chitchat I joked that, perhaps a  little coaching would do the two of  us no harm. I must have touched on a subject quite apparent to him, because he commeced intelligently belittling the mass of coaching, temper management, self-help courses and the hundreds of books now available to improve, reshape or reinvent us.

I disagreed, saying that with all the social and economic pressures bearing down on us nowadays, people and especially the young, are in need of assitance. My friend appeared to accept my view and went quiet for a few moments. No, he told me, I was wrong and asked if I had forgotten the dogma I had been taught – or should have been – as a child.

He stated emphatically that life’s problems would be better answered by our individual selves. He believed dignity, self control, a sense of duty, peace of mind and most important, control of one’s emotions, would do more for the individual than all the self improvement recipes on offer.

Common Sense, I thought as I left him,  heading home  now more determined to  cancel my Dale Carnegie subscription.

About bbryanthomas

Not so young man about town who, having witnessed and enjoyed life, is presently having fun, writing about those by-gone times and life in general.

10 comments on “Rare Common Sense

  1. The Shining Gem
    September 24, 2017

    Now a days everyone wants every piece of life advice spoon fed to them. A chicken soup for the soul, if you will. On the contrary, my opinion is similar to the gentleman you met, it’s better to learn through our own devices.

    If you don’t mind, just one tip, you could use a better more catchy title for this one.

    Liked by 1 person

    • bbryanthomas
      September 24, 2017

      True, the caption is blah. The problem being I was hungover and titles failed me.

      Liked by 1 person

    • bbryanthomas
      September 24, 2017

      …but it is rare, these days to listen to common sense

      Liked by 1 person

  2. KathrinS
    September 24, 2017

    Hmm, I guess he might be right in part. I agree that many people seem to have lost especially their sense of duty. At the same time, I think those things he mentioned are what good therapies or coaching are trying to help people find, aren’t they?

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    • bbryanthomas
      September 24, 2017

      Of course many people do need special help and, guidance but coaching, self-help, therapy has become big business and we’ll soon be having more and more young people who feel they cannot function without, their private coach, or trainer or outside help. Such assitance should not be necessary if they are taught the traditional family basics, dignity etc.

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    • bbryanthomas
      September 24, 2017

      I should add discipline. As a dancer you will understand the need for this.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Bridgesburning Chris
    September 24, 2017

    We have supplanted traditional values for advice sold for profit and not all of it is good.

    Liked by 1 person

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